20 BOOKS TO READ IN YOUR 20s
I have read over 100 non-fiction books, and I highly encourage you to read these 20. I believe they will provide valuable insights, deepen your self-awareness, and foster personal growth—all of which contribute to healthier relationships.
Disclaimer: Recommending these books does not mean I agree with every author on everything they have ever said or written. However, I found the content of these particular books to be insightful and extremely helpful, and I wish I had read them in my 20s. Most of the books reflect a Christian worldview, but I have also included a few secular titles that offer valuable insights.

The Purpose Driven Life – by Rick Warren
The New York Times #1 bestselling book by Pastor Rick Warren that helps you understand the purpose of your life.As one of the best-selling nonfiction books in history, with more than 34 million copies sold, and more than 70 translations available, The Purpose Driven Life is far more than just a book; it’s the roadmap for your spiritual journey. A journey that will transform your life.

Emotionally Healthy Spirituality – by Peter Scazzero
Peter Scazzero learned the hard way: you can’t be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature. Even though he was the pastor of a growing church, he did what most people do–avoid conflict in the name of Christianity; ignore his anger, sadness, and fear; use God to run from God; and live without boundaries.
Eventually God awakened him to a biblical integration of emotional health and the spiritual practice of slowing down and quieting your life for to experience a firsthand relationship with Jesus. It created nothing short of a spiritual revolution in Scazzero, in his church, and now in thousands of other churches.

Untangle Your Emotions – by Jennie Allen
How often have you heard, “Don’t let your emotions get the best of you”? But what if instead of ignoring our feelings, we noticed them, named them, and let God use them to draw us closer to Himself and others?
Many of us need to unlearn damaging messages about our emotions. We’ve been taught, for example, that emotions are untrustworthy, when, in fact, God can use them to help us see where we need His healing. Feelings aren’t something to fix; they are something to feel. As we discover how to name and navigate our emotions, we’ll learn how they can draw us closer to the God who built us—soul, mind, and heart.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – by Stephen R. Covey
This beloved classic presents a principle-centered approach for solving both personal and professional problems. With penetrating insights and practical anecdotes, Stephen R. Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, honesty, and human dignity—principles that give us the security to adapt to change and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates.

The Defining Decade – by Meg Jay, PhD
Drawing from more than two decades of work with thousands of clients and students, Jay weaves the latest science of the twentysomething years with behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. The result is a provocative read that provides the tools necessary to take the most of your twenties, and shows us how work, relationships, personality, identity and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood—if we use the time well.

Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets – by Andy Stanley
Discover five game-changing questions to ask every time you make a major decision regarding your finances, relationships, career, and more.
Good questions lead to better decisions. And your decisions determine the direction and quality of your life—they create the story of your life. And while nobody plans to complicate their life with bad decisions, far too many people have no plan to make good decisions.

The Principle of the Path – by Andy Stanley
In The Principle of the Path, Stanley addresses the key questions that so many of us have asked ourselves:
- Why do our expectations about our future often go unmet?
- Why is it that smart people with admirable life goals often end up far from where they intended to be?
- Why do so many people start out with a clear picture of where they want to be relationally, financially, and professionally and yet years later find themselves far from their desired destination?

The Compound Effect – by Darren Hardy
Catch this, and you’ll be unstoppable. – The acceleration secrets of superachievers. Do they have an unfair advantage? Yes they do, and now you can too! If you’re serious about living an extraordinary life, use the power of The Compound Effect to create the success you desire. Begin your journey today!

Atomic Habits – by James Clear
If you’re having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn’t you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because you don’t want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. Here, you’ll get a proven system that can take you to new heights.

The Power to Change – by Craig Groeschel
In The Power to Change, Craig will help you find true change in your relationships, habits, and thoughts by unpacking:
- How God’s power, not your willpower, leads to true transformation
- The real reasons you do what you do
- Why falling isn’t failure
- The power of creating small habits that lead to big change
- How to choose what you want most over what you want now

Don’t worry; you don’t have to be a morning person to start each new day well. Join Kat Lee and thousands of women from countries around the world who have learned to maximize their mornings. In Hello Mornings, Kat introduces a simple yet powerful three-minute morning routine that integrates Bible study, planning, and fitness into a foundational morning habit that fits into every schedule. She then helps you build each of these core habits for life-long growth.

Boundaries – by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend
In the New York Times bestseller, Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend help you learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of your life and set healthy, biblical boundaries with your spouse, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even yourself.

Single, Dating, Engaged, Married – by Ben Stuart
Pastor and author Ben Stuart guides you in navigating the four stages of a relational life and embracing the intentions and truths God has established for each one. This updated edition includes an additional chapter on how to end dating relationships well.

The 5 Love Languages – by Gary Chapman
In the #1 New York Times international bestseller The 5 Love Languages®, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.

Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married – by Gary D. Chapman, PhD
Before you plan your wedding, plan your marriage! Wish you could know what you’re getting into when you say “I do”? Now, with Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married, you can. Dr. Gary Chapman, #1 New York Times best-selling author of The 5 Love Languages, has spent the last thirty-five years counseling couples. In Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married, he shares what he and these couples have learned from experience.

Get Our of Your Head – by Jennie Allen
In Get Out of Your Head, Jennie inspires and equips us to transform our emotions, our outlook, and even our circumstances by taking control of our thoughts. Our enemy is determined to get in our heads to make us feel helpless, overwhelmed, and incapable of making a difference for the kingdom of God. But when we submit our minds to Christ, the promises and goodness of God flood our lives in remarkable ways.

Unstoppable – by Christine Caine
With fascinating stories and inspiring Scripture, Unstoppable takes us on Caine’s journey from feelings of inadequacy to trust in God’s provision to joy in seeing victory over suffering. Her remarkable story inspires us to embrace the power of being on God’s team–whether we are fighting human trafficking, leading a church, or starting a movement for good in our own community. No longer stuck on the sidelines, we will see how God has uniquely prepared us for the big dreams He calls us to carry out in His name.

Chase the Lion – by Mark Batterson
Chase the Lion is more than a catch phrase; it’s a radically different approach to life. It’s only when we stop fearing failure that we can fully seize opportunity by the mane. With grit and gusto, New York Times best-selling author Mark Batterson delivers a bold message to everyone with a big dream.
This is a wake-up call to stop living as if the purpose of life was to simply arrive safely at death. Our dreams should scare us. They should be so big that without God they would be impossible to achieve. Quit running away from what you’re afraid of.

The Awe of God – by John Bevere
Holy Fear is not a topic you’ll hear much about these days. But if you want to build a faith that stands strong through troubled times, you cannot afford to ignore this book.
In The Awe of God, John Bevere invites you to take a fresh look at what it means to work out your salvation with fear and trembling. This healthy, holy, and largely forgotten virtue is the uncommon path to a more fulfilled and fruitful spiritual life.

The Four Tendencies – by Gretchen Rubin
During her multibook investigation into human nature, Gretchen Rubin realized that by asking the seemingly dry question “How do I respond to expectations?” we gain explosive self-knowledge. She discovered that based on their answer, people fit into Four Tendencies:
• Upholders meet outer and inner expectations readily. “Discipline is my freedom.”
• Questioners meet inner expectations, but meet outer expectations only if they make sense. “If you convince me why, I’ll comply.”
• Obligers (the largest Tendency) meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations—therefore, they need outer accountability to meet inner expectations. “You can count on me, and I’m counting on you to count on me.”
• Rebels (the smallest group) resist all expectations, outer and inner alike. They do what they choose to do, when they choose to do it, and typically they don’t tell themselves what to do. “You can’t make me, and neither can I.”
Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework allows us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively. It’s far easier to succeed when you know what works for you.