ONE – The greatest love you’ll ever know, is the love of God. So whether you are happily married, married but lonely, or single, remember that no man will ever fully satisfy the deepest longings of your heart. Only God can do that. Take some time to dwell in His love for you by reading His word, spending time in worship, and praying.
TWO – Love is not a feeling, love is an action. Even if you are not feeling all lovey-dovey towards your husband because of a disagreement or conflict, you can still take a step towards getting closer to him. Ask God to soften your heart and to help you take a step that could lead to reconciliation.
THREE – Avoid comparing yourself and your husband with other couples. Different seasons and different personalities call for different ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Guard your heart, and do what you can to keep the enemy from robbing you of the joy and peace God wants you to have. If comparison is an area of struggle for you, I suggest you stay off of social media for the day.
FOUR – Set your husband up for success. If you’re expecting a certain gift, or there is a specific way you’d like to celebrate, make sure you communicate with your husband in a clear way. Remember, men are not typically the best at getting hints, but for the most part, they really do have a desire to make you happy. Help him out by sharing your vision for your time together on Valentine’s Day.
FIVE – Show gratitude. I think it’s fair to say that the kind of romantic displays of affection in rom-coms do not come natural for most men. However, most husbands in a healthy marriage still want to do something special for you on Valentine’s Day. Appreciate the gesture (even if it’s a total flop), and the fact that he wanted to do something nice for you. Don’t make him feel sorry he tried by criticizing his efforts, that can really discourage him from trying again. Gratitude, on the other hand, will make him feel loved, appreciated, and proud that he succeeded in making you happy.
Your turn!
- Find a Bible verse that speaks of God’s love for you, and meditate on that throughout the day.
- Think of something special you can do for your husband, and do it!
- What are some expectations you might need to release to God?
- Make a list of the things that are important to you about celebrating Valentine’s Day. Of those things, which ones are under your control and which ones are not? Focus on the ones you can control.
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