The Lord Will Fight For You

Conflict is an inevitable part of relationships, but how we handle it makes all the difference. As single young women, navigating relationships—whether friendships, family ties, or romantic connections—can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions run high. But what if the key to resolution isn’t in striving, arguing, or proving our point? What if, instead, it’s in being still and allowing God to fight for us?

One day, I witnessed a powerful lesson unfold in my own home. My two children, like most siblings, had their fair share of conflicts, but this particular incident stood out. On that day, my daughter was the instigator and my son was the victim of his little sister’s antics. She decided to grab one of her brother’s favorite toys while he watched from a distance. He jumped to his feet as soon as she held his toy in her hand and the chase was on! Looking for refuge, she ran as fast as her little legs would take her while her fuming brother got closer and closer with his longer strides. She barely made it to the Jack & Jill bathroom and locked herself inside, leaving her brother locked out, helpless.

I had followed from a short distance and stood in the hallway between their bedroom doors. Normally, I would grab the instigator, confiscate the toy, and return it to its rightful owner. Not this time. Something caused me to take a step back and observe.

I noticed my son frantically running back and forth from one bedroom to the other trying to open either one of the two doors that connected the bathroom to their respective bedrooms. It didn’t matter how much he pleaded, reasoned or yelled, he was entirely helpless to unlock the door. After several times of watching him zoom by me without even acknowledging my presence, I finally grabbed him by the shoulders and stopped him in his tracks.

“Buddy, stop! I’m right here! You keep running by me without asking for my help. Your sister is not going to listen to you. But don’t you know that she will listen to me? I have the authority to get her to open the door and get your toy back!”

The words had barely left my mouth when I felt God whisper the very same truth to me.

“Daughter, stop! I’m right here. How much longer will you keep running around, trying to fix things on your own? I have the authority to bring resolution, not you.”

Conviction washed over me. At the time, I was caught in my own relational conflict—trying to fix, control, and force outcomes with my own wisdom and strength. But just like my son, I was exhausting myself against locked doors when the answer had been right there all along: God’s presence, His sovereignty, His power.

Friend, are you running from one locked door to another, desperately seeking resolution, but refusing to acknowledge God’s presence? Are you trying to control a situation that only He has the power to change?

The Lord is standing right beside you. He sees the struggle, the hurt, and the exhaustion. And He is whispering, Be still. Let Me fight for you.

Instead of striving, surrender. Instead of manipulating outcomes, trust. Instead of exhausting yourself, rest in the truth that God is already at work.

I pray you gather the courage to surrender to the Lord whatever relational conflict you are currently facing. You can be fully confident that He has the authority to soften the heart or hearts involved in your situation.

If you stop running around long enough to acknowledge His presence, He can tenderly put His hands on your shoulders and remind you of His love and power, and you might just discover that it is actually your heart, yes, your heart, what He’s been going after all this time.

The Lord will fight for you, are you willing to be still?

*Disclaimer – This post is meant for the typical relationship conflicts that most people experience because of misunderstandings, blindspots, or lack of relationship skills. If you are in an abusive relationship, you need to seek professional help.

FLAG THIS!

• God is always present, even when we feel alone in our struggles.
• Running from one “locked door” to another will only exhaust you.
• He has the authority to soften hearts and bring resolution.
• Your role is not to fix, but to trust.
• True peace comes from surrendering to God, not from controlling circumstances.

HEART CHECK: Reflect and Grow

• What would it look like for you to “be still” and allow God to fight for you today?
• In what areas of your life are you trying to force a resolution instead of trusting God?
• How does your striving reveal a lack of trust in His timing and sovereignty
• Have you invited God into your relational struggles, or are you still trying to fix them on your own?

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