She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.”
Genesis 16:13
Do you ever feel invisible? Like everyone else is being pursued, cherished, and chosen, while you are left waiting, unseen and overlooked?
During a time when I was feeling particularly invisible, the Lord prompted me to order an encouraging custom sign for a friend. I remember thinking, That is so sweet, Lord. But almost immediately, another thought followed: I wish someone would get me a sign too. It reminded me of how a child might feel when their sibling receives special attention. Even as adults, we sometimes struggle with the fear of being forgotten.
I’ve walked with the Lord long enough to know that those feelings, while real, are not the truth. Here are some basic truths I’ve had to remind myself of:
- God’s love runs deeper and wider than I could ever fathom. (Ephesians 3:18)
- God doesn’t have favorites. (Romans 2:11)
- God’s blessings for someone else do not take away from the blessings He has planned for me. (2 Corinthians 9:8)
- It is my privilege to partner with God and be a vessel of His love for others. (Ephesians 2:10)
Once I realigned my heart with these truths, my perspective shifted. I became excited about creating something special for my friend. When the project was complete and delivered, I completely forgot that I had wanted a sign, too.
But God remembered.
He remembered not because He was disappointed that I felt a little jealous when He prompted me to give a sign to my friend, but because He takes note and cares about the deepest longings of His children’s hearts. He’s just that awesome, loving, and kind.
A few months later, as I finished a leadership training course, one of the participants surprised us all with custom wooden signs. Mine read El Roi—one of God’s names in Hebrew, meaning “The God Who Sees Me.”
As she handed it to me, she smiled and whispered, Samantha, the Lord sees you.
It was a tender yet powerful moment. Later that evening, the Lord reminded me, Samantha, I did not forget that you wanted a custom sign too. I see you. (Insert ugly cry here!)
The God of the Universe sees me! But you know what is even better? When I see Him back—when we lock eyes in a moment of recognition, when I acknowledge His presence in my life and trust Him fully.
This is so important in dating and relationships! When you feel unseen, remember: God sees you, and His timing is perfect. It’s tempting to seek validation from the world—to crave attention, affirmation, or a relationship to prove your worth. But true love isn’t about being noticed by just anyone; it’s about being seen, known, and loved by the right person, at the right time, according to God’s plan.
If someone is not pursuing you, respecting you, or valuing you, you don’t have to fight for their attention. Your worth is not determined by their interest in you. Instead, trust that God is preparing both you and your future partner for something far better than you could arrange on your own. Let go of desperation and embrace patience. You are not unseen. The God who created you, who knows the number of hairs on your head, sees you and loves you deeply. The right person will see you in the way God intended—when the time is right.
I pray that the eyes of your heart are open to see God’s love and goodness in your life. I pray you see Him in the big things and in the little things. In the answers and in the waiting. In the laughter and the tears. In the sunshine and the rain. In the company of many or in loneliness. In every place and every season, He is the God who sees you.
FLAG THIS!
- In dating, it’s easy to feel invisible or overlooked, but God always sees you.
- Your worth is not determined by who is or isn’t pursuing you—God has a plan, and His timing is perfect.
- Comparison can steal your joy, but trust that God’s blessings for others do not take away from what He has for you.
- Instead of striving for attention, trust that the right person will see and appreciate you for who you truly are.
- God cares about your deepest desires, even in dating—He is not ignoring you or holding back good things.
HEART CHECK: Reflect and Grow
- Have you ever felt invisible in dating or relationships? How did that affect your confidence and decisions?
- How do you typically respond when you feel overlooked—do you seek validation from people, or do you turn to God?
- What are some ways God has shown you that He sees and cares for you?
- Are you trusting God with your dating life, or are you trying to control the process yourself?
- How can you use this season of waiting to grow in your faith, character, and self-worth?
Photo Credit: Samantha Evans
